The professional coaching process is not what it once was. It’s purpose and intent is changing. Your own leadership abilities will improve and become more meaningful to you -and others- once you revisit the notion of coaching itself. When you work with me, you will find that your own values, identity, and sense of authenticity will be considered based on a non-formula approach to the coaching process. To understand what it means to be a leader today, we must consider being ‘un’ coached away from traditional methods. Why? Because each one of us is unique. And too often that one-of-a-kind identity does not get to reveal itself through traditional coaching methods. Leadership consulting and coaching process formulas only work to a point. Then what? How do we address you – that part of your personsonality that does not just have goals, strategies, and tasks to perform more efficiently. These are only on the surface of our inner personal truths, which are the TRUE DRIVERS OF THE CHOICES WE MAKE IN LIFE. This is what authenticity really is. Once revealed the whole world looks different. And how you act and make choices changes. You, in your full authentic self will actually become a more balance self-realized leader of others. All of which comes from your authentic place inside.
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First of all, from my wealth of experiences, I have found that we see ourselves best by reflecting off of others. That is, your ability to be truly who you are will come when others can empathize with you and then share with you how you are seen. This is at the essence of coaching. But, no matter what category you place yourself into – whether as a leader of others, as an executive, a manager, a life coach, or as someone looking to improve your own inner leadership – you will want a coach to help you see through your own forest of experiences and day-to-day trials. So, what is coaching? What are the benefits of coaching? And how do you find a leadership coach, life coach, career coach, or professional coach? Here are some coachable things to consider …
There is a difference between leading and leadership; between directing as a manager and managing as a mentor. There is also a difference between practicing formulated exercises to create personal change, and experiencing deep transformational change through self awareness. The concept of LEADERSHIP ECOLOGY suggests that a person’s leadership qualities are transferred to another through a shared awakening process. This is done by first empowering yourself as a leader in your own right based on your interests, capabilities, and passions to realize your unique authentic identity. In this way, instead of your leadership being placed upon another by ‘leading the charge’, you rather consciously follow and look for opportunities to ‘catalyze the charge’. That’s right: I said ‘follow’. By following team members and watching for their own ‘yellow brick road’, you inject power into the group’s journey, one individual at a time – starting with yourself. In other words, you evolve an ‘ecology of leadership’ by positioning yourself to see others, rather than them seeing you. Thus, my coaching approach is somewhat opposite of run-of-the-mill coaching. It comes more from a place of ‘guiding’ than it does from a traditional ‘leading’ coaching perspective. To emphasize this different perspective, I call it ‘uncoaching’.
To uncoach means that, together we first reconsider what it means for you to be coached. We will also reevaluate your objectives and plans, not as much by driving forces, but instead based on hidden motives, not just apparent ones. It means aspiring to a more evolved way as a leader. With me as your un-coach, you will actually be able to support your team and organization more effectively with good leadership. The other part of my ‘un’ coach approach is that you will not find a written formula or flow chart of prescribed objectives to follow. Instead, I rely strongly upon both your and my intuitive instincts, which has rarely – if ever – failed me. The challenge here is to be able to help you listen deeply into yourself. Notice that I did not say that ‘I’ need to listen deeply. Although this is the case, my motive is not to only tell you my aha’s as a coach, but more importantly to help you move into that aha space and see them when they occur. Again, this rarely can be done without others involved in your own awakening process. In this way, I effectively help you move more effectively toward the root of personal problems, difficult situations, and character behaviors that are personal to you rather than to someone’s standard. Thus, you awaken to a more authentic transformational change that will affect you as well as those around you.
I like the metaphor of the arrow hitting the bulls-eye, but for a different reason than you may assume. What if leadership no longer means hitting the center of a target? What if a leader’s best shot is when the arrow lands in the furthest outer ring? Curious idea, isn’t it? In leadership ecology, you want to target the OUTER ring, not the center. From the outer ring you have a very different perspective on leadership. By targeting the outer ring, you are in the best position to move others into the center. It also challenges your own authenticity as a person, which is so important as a leader. Because people can feel your truth – it is not as hidden as you may think.
By realizing your own authentic identity, you move to a place of compassion and empathy for others in your team or organization. Rather than you being isolated at the center, your influence radiates based on your ability to partner with others. Rather than being a director who oversees your subordinates, (which comes from a destructive form of ego that encourages others to see you at the center of the target), you instead see an ecology of interactions from the periphery of the target – a place where you are more a part of the interactions with others, and also risk the edge of expectation. Yes, the periphery of the target is not as safe as the center, is it? Yet, it’s where your true power will be realized. Once you get comfortable with this new perspective, your actions and your direction of others, will come from an empathic place, which is the first step in empowering others to their own leadership. That is real leadership, and marks the beginning of optimizing your organization (and dare I say the World) toward new forms of collaboration and innovation.
Whether you’re an executive, or manager, or coach: Does your ability to mentor and support others focus on authority-based leadership or authenticity-based leadership? What would it mean in terms of your team’s productivity and success if you acted as their unCoach, rather than as their director? Shift your ‘I’m in charge’ thinking. Go from being an authoritative director to being an authentic leader and watch what happens. Move yourself and your company toward creating sustainable innovation and develop a learning organization (I’ll talk more about these things later) by aiming at the outer perimeter instead of the center of the target – GET THERE WITH AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP COACHING.
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