Rauf Yusope asked:


Most of the time, anger is beyond ones’ control. It is one of the feelings that we, humans, experience in our life. When we are angry, there were times when we were advice to cool and calm. But most of the time we realize that it can be a challenging task to handle the anger especially in a challenging situation. There are steps that one can learn to manage anger.

For example, Pete kept getting angry and frustrated with himself for being disorganized and kept misplacing his items. What are the ways Pete can use to handle such situation? Firstly, every time when he encounters such problems, he should reaffirm himself. Instead of saying I am terrible at organizing, he can reaffirm himself by saying that I am so glad that I am able to have another wonderful learning opportunity to learn and improve my organizational skills.

Secondly, when he is angry, he can learn to find to a ‘relax’ spot. The spot must be away from incident area. Here, he can control his breathing to relax and release the tension and anger in him. Thirdly, another option in controlling and managing his anger, Pete can use is to find avenues to release his anger positively. For example, he can use sports such as swimming for individuals’ sports and soccer for team sports. Enjoying and exercising well can be one great method to be more relax and reduce anger in tense situation.

Fourthly, he can learn to be accountable for his actions. Being accountable for his actions, he will enable to handle his anger better with his sense of responsibilities. A person who takes charge of his mistakes tends to take charge of tense situation better. Fifthly, anger is built and controlled by the mind. Train the mind to view things as a learning process. As part of the learning process about anger management, learn to speak the words wisely and consistently. For example, when Pete makes a mistake, instead of getting angry instantly, he can tell himself what he can learn from the experience. Through such consistency acts given above in handling such situations, he can develop to control his feelings and anger better.

Similar to Pete, we encounter anger which is part of our feelings and life. With preventive measures taken, anger can be reduced and controlled greatly. Such anger management can result is a better, happier and positive lifestyle.



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